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A Short Subjunctive Rant

No, I didn’t mean subjective, though this will be that, too.

If you’ve ever learned a foreign language, you know what the subjunctive tense is. It’s the “if” verb tense, the one that accompanies things that might happen. English has a subjunctive tense, though it’s largely ignored. You probably use it without knowing it, and only use it correctly about half the time. If that. (more…)

Dear Guy Who Texted Me Out of the Blue,

I was having a bad week.  I think I may have mentioned something about it on social media, probably in passing, but when you texted me asking if I was okay and telling me everything would get better, it meant a lot.  We’re friends–we say hello in passing–but it’s not like we talk very often.  The fact that you cared enough to tell me everything would get better really made my week.  And I haven’t forgotten it.  (Obviously.)

But besides letting me know that people cared, you showed me that people didn’t think it was weird when you worried about them or wanted to make them happy, which is something that I constantly struggle with.  I always have the idea to help someone or to just do something nice, but I always worry that it will come across as creepy.  I still usually opt for not doing it, because I’m paranoid, but not as often as I did before you texted me that one day, however long ago it was.  So thank you for that.  You’re pretty great.

Sincerely,
The Girl Who Worries Way Too Much About What People Think